She assumed that he would be home at a decent hour, or at least communicate his plans, but he stayed out all night assuming things would be fine.
Instead of owning up to his mistake, Solomon condescendingly turns on the charm by calling her pet names through a crack in the door.
He says, "my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one."
Notice how the names progressively grow more intimate and personal.
My guess is that he had practiced this speech on his way home.
Regardless, his flirtation was met with agitation.
Solomon didn't apologize or seem remorseful.
He just assumed his charm would erase the harm he had done.
The vast majority of disappointment in relationships comes from unmet expectations.
This is when you think things are going to go one way, but they don’t.
This is when you anxiously await a good morning text, but your phone stays silent.
This is when you expect captivating conversation at dinner, but your partner just stares at their phone.
If you're in a relationship, you know what it's like when your expectations go unmet.
This entire fight could have been avoided with a text message or letter on the counter.
It's amazing what clear communication can accomplish.
When you think about it, most of our unmet expectations are actually un-communicated expectations.
Pastor Ty Bennet hit the nail on the head when he taught, "you cannot expect what you do not express."
You cannot expect your boyfriend to be a mind reader.
You cannot expect your girlfriend to know exactly what you want.
Strive to communicate your expectations, desires, needs, and heart.
It's unfair to expect what you do not explain.
Clear communication will protect you from the vast majority of conflict.
We all have breakdowns in communication, which is why we need to also guard ourselves from what comes next. What do we do when we feel hurt, unheard, or ignored?
That brings us to our second cause of conflict, reactions.
