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FMR develops a monthly youth ministry curriculum that is free to all local churches. Each monthly release includes a sermon series, small group series, Bible devotional, and supporting graphics packs that are original, practical, and ready to use.
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INTRODUCTION
• Every person on every continent is captivated by the notion of love.
• It’s a universal language, an emotional thread that weaves itself through the tapestry of humanity.
• Everyone relates to it.
• Everyone is interested in it.
• Everyone, well, loves it.
• Love stories define literature.
• The oldest story of all time, the Epic of Gilgamesh, contains a few love-laced plot lines.
• While his name makes some school-aged students cringe, Shakespeare built his entire career on love stories like Romeo and Juliet.
• Now, in modern times, every movie, television show, and song seems to contain the same theme—love.
• Much as Shakespeare is required reading in high school, hearing about love on any given day is inescapable.
SETTING UP THE SESSION
• When flipping through your Bible’s table of contents, you’ll find a love story on the list. It’s called Ruth.
• This book is interesting for a few reasons.
• First, Ruth is one of only two books named after women, making it particularly special in my eyes.
• Second, Ruth is not the name of a Jewish woman, which is a fascinating twist since the Old Testament records Jewish history.
• Today, we’ll dive into a brief study of this lovely little book filled with lessons of faith, cultural customs, love, and redemption.
• To start, let’s set the cultural and historical background. The book of Ruth revolves around three main characters: Naomi, an Israelite woman; Boaz, an Israelite man; and Ruth, a Moabite woman.
• The narrative takes place partly in Moab, a neighboring region to Israel. Then, it unfolds within Israel.
• The timeline is set during the period of the Judges, presumably not long after the Israelites arrived in the land of Canaan.
• In the early chapters, we meet Elimelech, Naomi’s husband.
• Due to a famine, Elimelech decides to move his family from Israel to Moab despite the inhabitants’ worship of pagan gods.
• Shortly after their arrival, Elimelech dies, leaving Naomi to raise their two sons on her own.
• To complicate things, her sons marry Moabite women—a move contrary to Mosaic law.
• Tragically, they also pass away, leaving Naomi and her two daughters-in-law, Ruth and Orpah, as grieving widows.
• A glimmer of hope breaks through the gloom, though.
• Naomi hears a rumor that conditions have improved back home in Israel.
• So, she resolves to return. The two women her sons married were from the land of Moab, though, so Naomi insists they remain in their homeland and allow her to take the pilgrimage to the Promised Land alone.
• Ruth, however, makes an impassioned pledge to stay with Naomi, worship the True God, and honor her covenant with her mother-in-law.
• This single act of loyalty, sacrifice, and God-honoring love sets the stage for something amazing.
• While Ruth and Naomi wanted to save their family, God was paving the way to save the world.
• Let’s see what happens.
• Why were they digging through someone else’s field? They weren’t committing grand theft barley.
• For context, per ancient Jewish law, impoverished people were allowed to go into the fields and glean any leftover food from the dirt and rocks.
• They’d use their collection to make a couple loaves of bread, which would feed their family for a few days.
• This is how Naomi and Ruth survived.
• They scavenged the fields for grain, wheat, and barley.
• Strangely enough, this is where Ruth’s love story begins.
• Call luck. Call it fate. I prefer to call it God’s providence.
• Whatever the circumstances, Ruth found herself gleaning in a wealthy young man’s field one day. His name was Boaz.
• As Ruth was swapping stories of his good heart and golden reputation with Naomi, Naomi’s face lit up.
• Boaz, she revealed, was a relative and a potential kinsman-redeemer for their family, and they should get married.
• I know. Your stomach likely just twisted into a knot. Did I just say Boaz was her relative? Why did Naomi get excited? Isn’t that strange?
• When you see this mention of relative, it’s speaking a lot more broadly than we assume in modern times.
• Ancient Israelites saw families as tribal relationships.
• Being from the same tribe meant they could preserve their bloodline, protect their religious rituals, and keep the family strong.
• This seemingly strange custom has everything to do with preservation.
• In the context of Mosaic Law, a kinsman-redeemer is a close relative who has the duty to marry a widow to continue the family line of the deceased.
• While the custom seems bizarre, some key cultural elements were at play.
• First, a kinsman-redeemer protected the widow from falling into debilitating poverty.
• Second, a kinsman-redeemer ensured the tribe remained strong and Abraham’s nation continued to grow.
• Boaz fit this role perfectly. Naomi, fully aware of this, begins to plan a big proposal.
• You heard that right. It was a Sadie Hawkins situation.
• Ruth was about to pop the question, but this is where the story gets even more strange.
• Naomi planned a unique, symbolic proposal.
• She told Ruth to go to the threshing floor where Boaz was sleeping, uncover his feet, and ask him to marry her. Boom, right there on the spot. Just like that.
• Your stomach likely went into another knot, didn’t it? Who sneaks up for a proposal? Now, what’s up with this whole “uncovering the feet” thing? What is that about?
• As we have seen with the example of Jesus washing his disciples’ feet, uncovering feet was a sign of service and sacrifice back then—especially after a person had spent all day toiling in the fields.
• While this is still a head-scratcher for even the smartest researchers, many scholars point out that an act like this was likely a ritual that displayed servanthood and humility.
• Women would do this to let men know they were interested and open to a proposal.
• There was a ritual involved because her asking him outright was unheard of at that time.
• Ruth had to sacrifice her time, her sleep, and quite a bit of her ego.
• Her out-of-the-box proposal was an example of sacrificial love.
• Ruth followed Naomi’s instructions. Boaz then exchanged shoes at the city gate and asked for her hand in marriage.
• Yes, there is some more strange cultural context to unpack.
• It was an ancient ritual to offer something that belonged to you when hammering out a marriage proposal.
• So, after some bizarre shoe-swapping negotiations, Boaz marries Ruth.
• They have a son named Obed, the grandfather of King David, making Ruth the great-grandmother of King David.
• Ultimately, this family line led all the way to the true King of Israel.
• Ruth was the great (x30) grandmother of King Jesus. And we all lived happily ever after because of it.
• Ruth’s story is packed full of powerful symbols and strange customs. For the sake of this study, let’s zoom into three practical principles from the perplexing tale of Ruth, Naomi, and Boaz.
1. There is always hope.
• Whenever I read this story, I imagine the smile creeping across Naomi’s face when she holds her new grandson, Obed.
• The hope that appeared on the other side of complete despair gives me goosebumps. She had been hopeless, but now she was full of hope.
• Please hear this: there is always hope for you. No matter how dark, lost, confusing, or discouraging your situation may seem, there is always hope. I have heard it said, “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”
• This sentiment echoes Naomi’s actions. Where she saw a helpless situation, God saw hope.
ILLUSTRATION: Share a story about a difficult time for your family.
• Sometimes, there are no words for such pain.
• As Naomi experienced, life can go dark abruptly.
• In the book of Ruth, Naomi lost not only her husband but also her two children within a few years. The magnitude of such pain is indescribable.
• When she returned to Israel, she asked people to call her “Mara” instead of “Naomi.”
• The word “Mara” translates to “bitter.” • She did this to spotlight her bitter feelings toward the Lord and her life.
• But throughout her dark times, she clearly held onto a glimmer of hope.
• How can we see that? In the first place, she decided to return to Israel, the Land of God, with Ruth.
• Romans 8:24 proclaims that, "we are saved by hope.”
• I’ve wrestled with this passage many times, but it’s beginning to make more sense as life unfolds.
• Life presents us with situations beyond our control. We yearn to change them, but we can’t.
• They’re painful and dark. But we can place our hope and trust in the One who can make a difference.
• Hope drives us forward.
• Hope helps us carry on.
• Hope helps us get out of bed when it’s just too hard to muster the strength.
• This is what Naomi and Ruth did. They clung to that sliver of hope by placing their trust in God, His promises, His plan, and His power.
• As Christians, we should follow their example.
Character Matters
• Ruth’s virtuous character not only wins her recognition in Bethlehem but also earns her a place in Jesus Christ’s lineage. Character matters.
• My pastor used to explain, “Reputation is who people think you are, and character is who you really are when no one else is watching.”
• Character is what you do when you’re home alone. It’s what you do when you’re out of town and all alone.
• It’s what you look at on your phone privately.
• Character is all those decisions you make when no one else is around to watch you.
• Ruth lived a quiet life, unaware that her story would one day end up in the Bible.
• Look at us right now. Modern Christians are still dissecting her every choice, applauding her sacrificial love, and naming their children after her.
• But her choices revealed her to be a woman of real integrity and someone we should strive to imitate.
• When Boaz first met her, he basically said, “I’ve heard all about you. How you left your own folks and moved to a foreign place, looking after your mother-in law. Your husband’s death didn’t deter you.”
• He had already caught wind of her good deeds. Her reputation preceded her.
• After Ruth boldly proposes to Boaz, he responds, “I will do as you ask. Everyone in town knows you are a woman of virtue (Ruth 3:11).”
• Despite being a stranger in a new land and facing the scorn that came with being a Moabite woman, Ruth chose to care for Naomi.
• She wanted to do right by her.
• Ruth made decisions out of kindness, love, and integrity, highlighting her strong character.
• Everybody in Bethlehem noticed. Boaz noticed. God noticed and blessed her for it.
• God took this Moabite woman and placed her in the lineage of Jesus Christ.
• She helped preserve the redemptive arc of all humanity with her small steps of kindness, integrity, and obedience.
• So, remember—our decisions have dramatic effects.
• Small decisions may seem like ripples, but they’ll eventually be waves. Make good decisions.
• As Ruth’s love story shows, it’ll lead to a blessed life.
• Throughout the Old Testament, we see numerous scriptures that provide us with types, prophecies, previews, and shadows of the coming Messiah. We see Jesus all through the Old Testament.
• Within the book of Ruth, we witness some of the most prominent foreshadowing's of Jesus anywhere in the Old Testament.
• In Luke 1:68, the prophet Zachariah said of Jesus: “Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, because He has come to help us and has redeemed His people.”
• The story of Boaz and Ruth provides a beautiful illustration of this truth.
• Boaz, stepping in to save Ruth and preserve her family tree, gives us a glimpse of the ultimate Redeemer. • Landing: Boaz’s redemption was only temporary. He was merely a foreshadowing, a symbol of the real Kinsman-Redeemer who was coming—and, indeed, has now arrived.
• Ruth’s family kept growing and eventually became the line of Israel’s royalty and nobility.
• While names like David, Solomon, Ahaz, and Hezekiah are certainly impressive, they don’t even come close to Ruth’s descendant named Jesus.
• Unlike Boaz’s temporary and individual salvation, He made a way of salvation for all humanity permanently and forever.
• Please see all the glory in this story. It represents our unending hope in Jesus Christ, who saved us permanently and forever.
• It teaches us the importance of character that leads to blessings beyond our wildest dreams.
• More than anything, Ruth reaffirms that we have a Redeemer.
Landing:
Boaz’s redemption was only temporary. He was merely a foreshadowing, a symbol of the real Kinsman-Redeemer who was coming—and, indeed, has now arrived.
• Ruth’s family kept growing and eventually became the line of Israel’s royalty and nobility.
• While names like David, Solomon, Ahaz, and Hezekiah are certainly impressive, they don’t even come close to Ruth’s descendant named Jesus.
• Unlike Boaz’s temporary and individual salvation, He made a way of salvation for all humanity permanently and forever.
• Please see all the glory in this story. It represents our unending hope in Jesus Christ, who saved us permanently and forever.
• It teaches us the importance of character that leads to blessings beyond our wildest dreams.
• More than anything, Ruth reaffirms that we have a Redeemer.
TALK IT OUT
Go through these questions with your circle. Be honest. Be open. Talk through the tough stuff.
Ice Breaker: Go around your circle and share this week’s highs and lows. What was the best part of your week and the lowest part of your week?
Q1: What stuck out to you the most from today’s message?
Q2: Have you ever experienced a dark time in life when it felt like hope saved you? If so, how did hope help get you through that difficult time?
Q3: What are some practical ways you try to exemplify good character? Do you have certain habits, boundaries, mentors, etc., in your life to help shape your character?
Q4: What exactly does a “Redeemer” do? Do you feel like you need redeeming? Have you accepted Jesus’s offer of redemption?
APPLICATION:
Ruth’s obedience is what set her up to be celebrated. What small steps of obedience can you take today that may set you up for future success?
READ THESE PASSAGES IN ORDER EVERY DAY
Ruth 1:1-6
Ruth 1:7-10
Ruth 1:11-16
Ruth 1:17-22
Ruth 2:1-9
Ruth 2:10-17
Ruth 18-23
Do the following with each passage:
ASK– God to connect with you here. In prayer, start by slowing down and inviting God to be present. Begin with focus and openness to see what God has for you today.
READ– the selected section of Scripture slowly. Take note of the words and phrases that intrigue you, reading them a second time if necessary.
REFLECT– on what grabs you. How does this passage personally relate to your own life and experiences?
RESPOND– to the Scripture. Speak directly to God about what’s on your mind and heart. Look for ways to live out what you’ve uncovered.