Ark Kids Elementary: Peace

Peace Week 4: I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked

Herman will be running for president of the neighborhood association. Rusty, his campaign manager, suggested playing dirty in order to win.



Large Group Full Program

Large Group Full Program Instructions

Countdown / Rules
Materials: Lesson Plan
Leader
Note:

Optional musical selections for this lesson:

  • Soft instrumental music for Big Story
  • Game music for Engage 3 and Big Review
Note:

Question of the Day: Which food do you dislike the most?

Materials:
Hosts
  • The Host and Co-Host enter wearing lab coats.

Host Welcome to the Lab. We have had a great month talking about how to have peace, even when we feel different emotions.

Co-Host When did we learn how to have peace when we poop?

Host I never said poop.

Co-Host You said we learned to have peace when we feel different emojis.

Host Not emojis, emotions. You know, feelings.

Co-Host That makes more sense because I don’t know if peaceful pooping is possible.

Host That is more information than I ever want to know. Today we’re going to wrap up our final emotion. To get started, we’re going to ask you a series of This or That questions to see which the majority of you prefer. If you prefer number one, hold up one arm. If you prefer number two, hold up two arms.

  • Ask the kids the following questions and have them respond.

  • Vanilla Ice Cream or Chocolate Ice Cream
  • Football or Basketball
  • Ocean or Pool
  • Captain America or Batman
  • Frozen or Encanto
  • Cats or Dogs
  • Pancakes or Waffles
  • Shoes or Barefoot
  • Taco or Hamburger
  • Fries or Chips
  • Bath or Shower
  • Milk or Juice

Host We were split down the middle on some of those. I’m glad I wasn’t up there on that list.

Co-Host Today we will discover how to respond, even if someone were to dislike us.

Host That sounds helpful for all of us. Stand to your feet and tell someone nearby whether you prefer Netflix or YouTube. Let’s check up on our friends in the lab

Materials:
Materials: Lab Coat (2)
Hosts
  • Host and Co-Host enter.

Co-Host That Hans Von Striker is not a nice guy.

Host Do you think that Herman should follow Rusty’s advice? Have you ever had someone tell others that they don’t like you? How did that make you feel?

  • Interview a couple of kids.

Co-Host I don’t like being rejected. It feels terrible.

Host Just because someone rejects or doesn’t like you doesn’t mean that your life is over. We’ll see some examples of this as I share the following facts. See if you can guess who I’m talking about.

  • Ask the kids the following questions and then show the answer.

  • He was cut from his high school varsity basketball team because he didn’t have enough skill. (Michael Jordan)
  • He was demoted from captain to private as a soldier and lost 7 elections. (Abraham Lincoln)
  • He was fired from his newspaper job because his boss told him that he didn’t have any good ideas. (Walt Disney)
  • He was told by a teacher that he would never amount to anything. (Albert Einstein)
  • He thought about burning his first book after it was rejected 27 times. (Dr. Seuss)

Co-Host That’s a lot of people who were disliked but kept going.

Host We can too, especially because have help. God brings us peace so that we can keep doing what we’re supposed to do, even if someone doesn’t like us for doing it.

Co-Host That’s what we’ll discover in our Big Point. I need a volunteer to help us reveal it.

  • Host and Co-Host choose a kid to volunteer.

Host You will help us count down from three and then read the Big Point.

Host Let’s all say it together, I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

Co-Host Even if someone tells you they don’t like you…

Host Or they tell you that they don’t like what you do to serve God.

Co-Host You can choose a calm and peaceful attitude. You don’t have to get back at them or lob insults at them.

Host Instead, just keep doing what God has asked you to do, and trust God to take care of the situation.

Co-Host Peace is better than revenge.

Host That’s good. We should share that with Rusty.

Materials: Lab Coat (2), Hula Hoop (2)
Hosts
  • Host and Co-Host enter.

Host Do you think Herman’s decision will cost him the election?

Co-Host Rusty thinks so, but Herman would rather have peace than win at any cost. He really gets our Big Point. Let’s say it again,

Co-Host I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

Host Even when people go out of their way to dislike us, we can choose peace. Let’s see what the Bible says in today’s Big Verse.

  • Host and Co-Host choose a kid to volunteer.

Co-Host After we count down from three, we need you to read our Big Verse.

Co-Host Romans 12:18 (NIrV) says, “If possible, live in peace with everyone.”

Host We’re not always going to agree with everyone in our family, our friends, or at school; and they’re not always going to agree with us. But we can choose to cooperate with others and try to make peace.

Co-Host It’s not always easy, but it’s something that God can help us do. We’re going to try a cooperative game with two teams of kids.

  • Bring up two teams of three to four kids. The activity is sometimes called Helium Hoop or Hula Hoop Balance. The kids can only use their index fingers to balance the hula hoop. They cannot curl their fingers around it or grip it. It must rest on top of their fingers.

Host We’ve given each team a hula hoop. Here’s how this activity works. When I say, “Go,” you have to lower your hula hoop from chest level to the ground. Sounds easy, right?

Co-Host Here’s the challenge. You can only use your two pointer fingers to hold the hula hoop. Everyone on the team has to keep their two fingers on the hoop the whole time. One last thing. You can’t talk at all. Let’s see how you do.

  • Allow the teams to try the activity.

Host That’s challenging. Let’s try that again. This time your team can talk.

  • Allow the teams to try again.

Co-Host You really had to work together. We may not always get along, but we can choose to peacefully cooperate. We don’t have to disrupt or cause chaos just because someone else makes poor choices.

Host Not everyone will choose peace. But that doesn’t have to affect our choice. We can act in a calm and peaceful way because God gives us the power to choose peace. It’s also best to communicate true things about God in peace. Let’s stand and take a moment to worship the God who gives us peace.

Materials:
Materials:
Leader

Play optional soft instrumental music.

When someone dislikes you for doing good, it’s hard to choose peace. Instead, you just go on instinct and do what feels natural. You often want to strike back at that person with your words or actions. However, there’s a way to make God’s way your natural way of responding. If you plant God’s word in your heart, then that’s what comes out of you when you’re pushed to your limit. Let’s do that now. Let’s use today’s Big Verse to pray. This is called meditating on God’s Word. It’s a great way to get His truth in you. Let’s repeat this prayer a couple of times: “Jesus, please help me to live in peace with everyone, no matter what others do.” (Repeat 2x) Keep repeating that throughout the week, especially when someone treats you badly. It will help you make the wise choice.

Materials:
Materials: Lab Coat (2), Beach Balls
Hosts
Note:

For this Engage, you will play “Monkey in the Middle.” This game can be played with a small group onstage; however, this version will use multiple beach balls and the entire group of kids. Choose whichever version works best for your environment.

  • Host and Co-Host enter.

Co-Host The neighborhood will be a lot better off with Herman in charge.

Host He can feel good knowing that he chose peace instead of revenge. It was the same choice that Paul and Silas made. Remember the Big Point,

Host I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

Co-Host It was so cool that Paul and Silas praised God in the middle of jail and that when they had the chance to escape, they chose to stay and share Jesus with the guard.

Host You can tell your family that story when you do this week’s Big Do.

Host Play “Monkey in the Middle,” and when it’s your turn in the middle, remember that you can choose peace in the middle of any situation.

Co-Host Why don’t we play that game now, so everyone will be ready to play when they get home. You can play with just a few people, but let’s take it to the extreme by using the entire room. We’re going to toss beach balls from section to section in the room. Kids on the outside sections, try to keep them out of middle. If you’re in the middle, your job is to try to catch the beach balls. Let’s see who has more at the end of 60 seconds.

Host Ready? Go!

  • Play optional game music

  • Play the game. Designate a section of kids or multiple sections of kids as the monkey in the middle. The kids on either side of the “Monkey” group tries to hit or toss beach balls over the top of the “Monkeys.” The “Monkey” section tries to catch them. Use as many beach balls as you can to extend the game. Count whoever has the most and declare the winner.

Host Great job. Whenever you’re in the middle of a difficult situation, don’t forget that God is with you. That’s how you can choose peace. Let’s turn and connect with our small groups and talk about what we’ve learned from the Bible.

Materials:
Small Group Leader
  • Gather the kids into small groups and discuss the following.

  • Has anyone ever disliked you, said mean things about you for no reason, or been mean because you did something good? What happened?
  • Why were Paul and Silas placed in jail? For helping the slave girl. How did they respond with peace? Worshipped God What did Paul and Silas do when the jail doors opened? They told the jailer about Jesus.
  • How could you respond the next time someone dislikes you?
  • What did Herman tell us to do with our families in the Big Do? Play Monkey in the Middle
Materials:
Leader
  • Play optional game music

  • Choose two kids from the audience to come on stage and answer the question.

  • Our Big Point says I Can Have Peace When I’m _______!

    • Loved
    • Disliked
  • Why was Paul and Silas placed in jail?

    • Robbing a bank
    • Helping someone
  • What did Paul and Silas do in jail?

    • Called the guards names
    • Praised God
  • Who challenged Herman in the election?

    • Rusty
    • Hans Von Striker
  • What did Paul and Silas do when the jail doors opened?

    • Stayed Put
    • Escaped
  • Romans 12:18 (NIrV), “If possible, live in peace with _______.”

    • Everyone
    • Some People
  • Choosing to live at peace is always easy.

    • True
    • False
  • How can you choose peace in the middle of a bad situation?

  • When you follow Jesus, He will make everyone like you all the time.

    • True
    • False
  • What challenge did Herman give us as this week’s Big Do?

    • Play Monkey in the Middle


Large Group Abbreviated

Large Group Abbreviated Instructions

Countdown / Rules
Materials: Lesson Plan
Leader
Note:

Optional musical selections for this lesson:

  • Soft instrumental music for Big Story
  • Game music Big Review
Note:

Question of the Day: Which food do you dislike the most?

Materials:
Hosts
  • The Host and Co-Host enter wearing lab coats.

Host Welcome to the Lab. We have had a great month talking about how to have peace, even when we feel different emotions.

Co-Host When did we learn how to have peace when we poop?

Host I never said poop.

Co-Host You said we learned to have peace when we feel different emojis.

Host Not emojis, emotions. You know, feelings.

Co-Host That makes more sense because I don’t know if peaceful pooping is possible.

Host That is more information than I want to know. Is there a dislike button for that comment?

Co-Host Today we will discover how to respond, even if someone were to dislike us.

Host That sounds helpful for all of us. Stand to your feet and tell someone nearby whether you prefer Netflix or YouTube. Let’s check up on our friends in the lab

Materials: Lab Coat (2)
Hosts
  • Host and Co-Host enter.

Co-Host That Hans Von Striker is not a nice guy.

Host Do you think that Herman should follow Rusty’s advice? Have you ever had someone tell others that they don’t like you? How did that make you feel?

  • Interview a couple of kids.

Co-Host I don’t like being rejected. It feels terrible.

Host Just because someone rejects or doesn’t like you doesn’t mean that your life is over.

Host We can keep going because we have help. God brings us peace so that we can keep doing what we’re supposed to do, even if someone doesn’t like us for doing it.

Co-Host That’s what we’ll discover in our Big Point. I need a volunteer to help us reveal it.

  • Host and Co-Host choose a kid to volunteer.

Host You will help us count down from three and then read the Big Point.

Host Let’s all say it together, I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

Co-Host Even if someone tells you they don’t like you…

Host Or they tell you that they don’t like what you do to serve God.

Co-Host You can choose a calm and peaceful attitude. You don’t have to get back at them or lob insults at them.

Host Instead, just keep doing what God has asked you to do, and trust God to take care of the situation.

Co-Host Peace is better than revenge.

Host That’s good. We should share that with Rusty.

Materials: Lab Coat (2),
Hosts
  • Host and Co-Host enter.

Host Do you think Herman’s decision will cost him the election?

Co-Host Rusty thinks so, but Herman would rather have peace than win at any cost. He really gets our Big Point. Let’s say it again,

Co-Host I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

Host Even when people go out of their way to dislike us, we can choose peace. Let’s see what the Bible says in today’s Big Verse.

  • Host and Co-Host choose a kid to volunteer.

Co-Host After we count down from three, we need you to read our Big Verse.

Co-Host Romans 12:18 (NIrV) says, “If possible, live in peace with everyone.”

Host We’re not always going to agree with everyone in our family, our friends, or at school; and they’re not always going to agree with us. But we can choose to cooperate with others and try to make peace.

Co-Host We don’t have to disrupt or cause chaos just because someone else makes poor choices.

Host Not everyone will choose peace. But that doesn’t have to affect our choice. We can act in a calm and peaceful way because God gives us the power to choose peace. It’s also best to communicate true things about God in peace.

Materials:
Leader

Play optional soft instrumental music.

When someone dislikes you for doing good, it’s hard to choose peace. Instead, you just go on instinct and do what feels natural. You often want to strike back at that person with your words or actions. However, there’s a way to make God’s way your natural way of responding. If you plant God’s word in your heart, then that’s what comes out of you when you’re pushed to your limit. Let’s do that now. Let’s use today’s Big Verse to pray. This is called meditating on God’s Word. It’s a great way to get His truth in you. Let’s repeat this prayer a couple of times: “Jesus, please help me to live in peace with everyone, no matter what others do.” (Repeat 2x) Keep repeating that throughout the week, especially when someone treats you badly. It will help you make the wise choice.

Materials: Lab Coat (2),
Hosts
  • Host and Co-Host enter.

Co-Host The neighborhood will be a lot better off with Herman in charge.

Host He can feel good knowing that he chose peace instead of revenge. It was the same choice that Paul and Silas made. Remember the Big Point,

Host I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

Co-Host It was so cool that Paul and Silas praised God in the middle of jail and that when they had the chance to escape, they chose to stay and share Jesus with the guard.

Host You can tell your family that story when you do this week’s Big Do.

Host Play “Monkey in the Middle,” and when it’s your turn in the middle, remember that you can choose peace in the middle of any situation.

Co-Host That's Right! Whenever you’re in the middle of a difficult situation, don’t forget that God is with you. That’s how you can choose peace.

Host Let’s turn and connect with our small groups and talk about what we’ve learned from the Bible.

Materials:
Small Group Leader
  • Gather the kids into small groups and discuss the following.

  • Has anyone ever disliked you, said mean things about you for no reason, or been mean because you did something good? What happened?
  • Why were Paul and Silas placed in jail? For helping the slave girl. How did they respond with peace? Worshipped God What did Paul and Silas do when the jail doors opened? They told the jailer about Jesus.
  • How could you respond the next time someone dislikes you?
  • What did Herman tell us to do with our families in the Big Do? Play Monkey in the Middle
Materials:
Leader
  • Play optional game music

  • Choose two kids from the audience to come on stage and answer the question.

  • Our Big Point says I Can Have Peace When I’m _______!

    • Loved
    • Disliked
  • Why was Paul and Silas placed in jail?

    • Robbing a bank
    • Helping someone
  • What did Paul and Silas do in jail?

    • Called the guards names
    • Praised God
  • Who challenged Herman in the election?

    • Rusty
    • Hans Von Striker
  • What did Paul and Silas do when the jail doors opened?

    • Stayed Put
    • Escaped
  • Romans 12:18 (NIrV), “If possible, live in peace with _______.”

    • Everyone
    • Some People
  • Choosing to live at peace is always easy.

    • True
    • False
  • How can you choose peace in the middle of a bad situation?

  • When you follow Jesus, He will make everyone like you all the time.

    • True
    • False
  • What challenge did Herman give us as this week’s Big Do?

    • Play Monkey in the Middle


Midweek / Classroom

Midweek / Classroom Instructions

Countdown / Rules
Materials: Lesson Plan
Leader
Note:

Optional musical selections for this lesson:

  • Soft instrumental music for Big Story
  • Game music for Lab Wars and Big Review
Note:

Question of the Day: Which food do you dislike the most?

Materials: Lab Coat
Leader
  • Leader enters, wearing a lab coat.

Hey guys, welcome to the Lab! On the count of three, I want you to yell out your least favorite vegetable. 1, 2, 3! I heard a lot of broccolis, brussels sprouts, and carrots. I think almost everyone has a vegetable or some type of food that they really dislike. But stop and think for a second. Have you ever been disliked, maybe by a kid in your class or even a teacher? It is an awful feeling when someone doesn’t like you. Did you know Jesus was disliked? It’s true! Tonight we will talk about how we can have peace when we’re disliked. But before we get to that, stand up, turn to your neighbor, and tell them one thing you like about them. Then let’s worship!

Materials:
Materials: Lab Coat, Ball, Spitball Gun, Target
Leader
  • Prior to this segment, set up the game by placing the target and choosing a spot where the kids will shoot from. Set up the toilet paper on a table for making the spitballs. If you don’t have a spitball gun, you can easily play with waded up toilet paper and some water.

It’s time for Lab Wars! This is the part of our service where you’ll have a chance to win points for your team! Since tonight we have talked about being disliked, I thought we could play a game featuring the ultimate “dis,” spitballs! Small group leaders, I need you to send up one representative from your team.

  • Leader enters, dressed in a lab coat.

You guys did a great job worshipping God! It’s now time to break up into your small groups. Go ahead and turn to your small group leaders now.

  • Allow the leaders to send up one child.

Each kid will shoot one wet, slimy, squishy, spitball at the target. Whichever team comes closest to hitting the target will earn their team 5,000 points!

  • Split into small groups

  • Play optional game music. Play the game.

  • Small Group Leader, Use these two minutes to introduce yourself to your kids and go over the rules you have for your group. This will set the expectation and show the kids clear boundaries, setting your group up for success. The ball can be used as a tool to signify whose turn it is to respond.

Congratulations to the winning team! I hope that’s the only spitball you guys ever experience. Getting smacked in the face with a wad of someone else’s saliva is not fun. Have you ever been picked on, left out, or completely ignored? It can hurt when people don’t like us. Let’s check in with our friends at the lab to see if they’ve ever experienced anything like this.

Materials: Lab Coat, Engage 1 Activity (1 Per Child)
Leader
  • Leader enters

That Hans Von Striker is not a nice guy. Do you think that Herman should follow Rusty’s advice? (Pause) I don’t think so either. Just because someone rejects or doesn’t like you doesn’t mean that your life is over. God brings us peace so that we can keep doing what we’re supposed to do, even if someone doesn’t like us for doing it. That’s exactly what our Big Point is all about. I need a small group to help us reveal it.

  • Choose a small group to help reveal the Big Point.

I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked! Even when people go out of their way to dislike us, we can choose peace. Let’s do a fun activity in our small groups talking about things we dislike.

Small Group Leader
  • Each child has a stack of pictures. Have them put them in order, ranking them from those they like the least, to those they like the most. Afterwards, compare each other’s rankings. Have them discuss why they like one over the other. Then ask the following question

  • Tell me about a time when someone disliked you.
Leader

Give the kids a moment to settle down from the activity. You may want to say something like, “Ok, everyone, sit back on your pockets and face the front.” Then pause until you have their attention.

Raise your hand and tell me your least favorite item.

  • Go around and allow a few kids to answer this question.

I (don’t/do) agree with those who said they dislike broccoli the most. What’s worse than all of these things is when someone dislikes you! It’s a bummer if someone doesn’t like you and chooses to treat you poorly. But does that mean you can’t have peace? Of course not! You can choose a calm and peaceful attitude, even when others are mean. Remember our Big Point,

I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked! Let’s see how Herman chooses to respond when he is disliked.

Materials: Lab Coat, Hula Hoop (1 Per Group), Stopwatch (1 Per Group)
Leader
  • Leader enters.

Do you think Herman’s decision will cost him the election? Rusty seems to think it will. But Herman would rather have peace than win at any cost. He really gets our Big Point. Let’s say it again,

I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked! Our Big Verse talks all about this. I need a small group to help me reveal it!

  • Pick a small group to help you count it down.

Count it down with me! Ready?

Romans 12:18 (NIrV) says, “If possible, live in peace with everyone.” Even when people go out of their way to dislike us, we can choose to be kind and create peace! Let’s do a fun activity in our small groups to illustrate what this means. Each small group has a hula hoop. Everyone must stand in a circle and hold hands, with the hula hoop looped into your circle. Your small group leader has a stopwatch. Your goal is to get the hula hoop to travel around the entire circle as fast as you can, without letting go of your neighbors’ hands. Then do it again and try to beat your time. Let’s play now!

Small Group Leader
  • Have your group stand in a circle, with the hula hoop around one set of peoples’ hands. The goal is to have the hula hoop travel around the entire circle without letting go of each other’s hands. Time your team using a stopwatch or your phone. Repeat this process, trying to beat your time each round. If your group needs some more explanation, show them how they can transfer the hoop from one person to the other. If you need reference, check out this video: www.playworks.org/game-library/hula-hoop-challenge

Leader
  • Give the kids a moment to settle down from the activity. You may want to say something like, “Ok everyone, sit back on your pockets, face the front.” Then pause until you have their attention.

We’re not always going to agree with everyone in our family, our friends, or at school. But we can choose to cooperate with others and try to make peace. We don’t have to disrupt or cause chaos just because someone else chooses to do that. It’s not always easy, but it’s something that God can help us do. Remember our Big Point,

I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked! Even when others dislike us, we can continue doing the right thing. Let’s check out a story in the Bible about two guys who could have easily become angry or decided to get even. Let’s see what they did instead.

Materials:
Leader

Play optional soft instrumental music.

Not everyone will choose peace, but that doesn’t affect our choice. We can act in a calm and peaceful way because God gives us the power to choose peace. Let’s turn to our small groups and talk about this more.

Small Group Leader
Note:

The goal in this segment is to create a place where kids can openly share and to bring accountability to becoming more like Jesus. Do this by truly listening, responding with love, and showing them what it looks like to be a friend and follower of Jesus. The ball can be used as a tool to signify whose turn it is to respond.

  • Tell me about a time when you were disliked. -Have you ever been disliked for doing the right thing? Tell me about that.
  • What can you remind yourself of when someone dislikes you that will help you choose peace? Even though they don’t like me I know God loves me, God loves this person and I should love them too, God can help me have peace

I want you to think about someone who dislikes you. We are going to take a moment and pray for that person. If you don’t know what to pray, here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Pray that God blesses them.
  • Pray that they come to know Jesus, if they don’t already.
  • Pray that God provides whatever they need right now.
Leader
  • Give the groups a moment to finish up. You can say something like, “If you aren’t finished yet, take the next couple seconds to finish up.” Then give them a moment, until you have their attention

No one enjoys it when people are mean and dislike each other. It’s not fun at all. But just because someone chooses to dislike us doesn’t mean we have to hate them back. We have the power to choose to have peace on the inside and to show others peace by choosing kindness. I am so glad God doesn’t leave us to do this alone. He promises to help us. Remember our Big Point,

I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked! Let’s check back in at the lab to see how this election pans out.

Materials:
Leader
  • Leader enters

The neighborhood will be a lot better off with Herman in charge. He can feel good, knowing that he chose peace instead of revenge. This is the same choice that Paul and Silas chose. Remember the Big Point,

I Can Have Peace When I’m Disliked!

You can practice what we learned today when you do this week’s Big Do.

Play “Monkey in the Middle,” and when it’s your turn in the middle, remember that you can choose peace in the middle of any situation. Let’s turn to our small groups to finish up tonight’s lesson!

Small Group Leader
  • Use this time to hand out any positive reinforcement tools (i.e. Candy, stickers, prize coupons, etc.) Tell your group how much you enjoyed spending time with them this week. Finally, end your time together with a prayer and maybe even a group cheer.

Materials:
Leader
  • Play optional game music

  • Choose two kids from the audience to come on stage and answer the question.

  • Our Big Point says I Can Have Peace When I’m _______!

    • Loved
    • Disliked
  • Why was Paul and Silas placed in jail?

    • Robbing a bank
    • Helping someone
  • What did Paul and Silas do in jail?

    • Called the guards names
    • Praised God
  • Who challenged Herman in the election?

    • Rusty
    • Hans Von Striker
  • What did Paul and Silas do when the jail doors opened?

    • Stayed Put
    • Escaped
  • Romans 12:18 (NIrV), “If possible, live in peace with _______.”

    • Everyone
    • Some People
  • Choosing to live at peace is always easy.

    • True
    • False
  • How can you choose peace in the middle of a bad situation?

  • When you follow Jesus, He will make everyone like you all the time.

    • True
    • False
  • What challenge did Herman give us as this week’s Big Do?

    • Play Monkey in the Middle

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